social intelligence
"The essential challenge is to transform the isolation and self-interest within our communities into connectedness and caring for the whole." — Peter Block

We are just weeks away from a consequential midterm election, and like you I find myself increasingly frightened by what is happening to American democracy. The Trump administration continues to test the limits of presidential power and the institutions designed to constrain it. Enormous wealth increasingly buys access and influence. The rush to build massive data centers, while communities contend with their demands for power, water, and land, is only the latest obvious manifestation. Rules and norms that once seemed durable suddenly seem much less so. And all around me I hear thoughtful people wondering whether anything they do can possibly make a difference.
That last part may frighten me most. Lately I’ve been wondering what happens when enough people conclude that nothing they do matters.
Carlyn Beccia recently introduced me to a useful idea she calls the “asshole threshold.” Cooperation works when most people believe that other people will cooperate too. But when enough people cheat, exploit, lie, or simply look out for themselves, cooperation begins to seem foolish. Why follow the rules when the assholes don’t?
Eventually the cooperators begin to defect too. That sounds uncomfortably familiar. But there is another side to the story. Research on cooperation suggests that cooperators become more resilient when they find one another, interact repeatedly, and discover that cooperation can actually work.
I keep thinking about what this means for community. Maybe one reason so many of us feel powerless is that we experience the enormous problems confronting us as individuals. Climate change. Concentrated wealth. Threats to democracy. Each is far beyond anything I can affect by myself.
But community changes the scale of the question. You show up. You meet people you didn’t know. Someone listens. Someone knows something you don’t. Someone has a skill, a relationship, a building, a truck, a garden, an idea. You begin to discover what exists among you. You imagine something that none of you could accomplish alone.
And then you do something. Something changes. That experience matters. The question shifts from What can I possibly do? to What might we be able to do together?
Maybe this is what start where you are really means. Whenever people have a chance to know one another, discover what they have among them, imagine what might be possible, and accomplish something together, they experience their own collective capacity.
These experiences are still far too rare. But each one provides evidence that cooperation works. Perhaps hope isn’t something we need to convince one another to feel. Perhaps it is something we create together.

civics, civic capacity
I like Peter Block’s contention that a community’s capacity to create its future resides not primarily in its leaders, but in its citizens and their relationships. In Community, he proposes the small group as the unit of transformation: bring people together, ask questions that matter, discover what each can contribute, and create something together. The experience shifts people from waiting for solutions to discovering their own capacity to act together.
BOOK: Community: The Structure of Belonging

CIVICS, SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE
Carlyn Beccia warns that when corruption and self-dealing become common, cooperation starts to look foolish. But drawing on Robert Axelrod’s game theory and the civic organizing of the Gilded Age, she finds reason for hope: cooperation becomes more resilient when cooperators find one another and keep showing up. I like her suggestion that community may be where we find evidence that cooperation works—and where we rediscover our collective power.
ARTICLE: Has America Crossed the Asshole Threshold?

CIVICS, ASSET-BASED COMMUNITY DEVELOPMENT
Asset-Based Community Development turns the usual approach to community building on its head. Rather than beginning with problems and deficiencies, John McKnight and Jody Kretzmann begin by discovering the people, relationships, skills, knowledge, spaces, and resources already present. In the process, people discover one another and begin connecting capacities that had been scattered and unseen. The question shifts from What do we lack? to What might we do with what we already have?
ARTICLE: Asset Based Community Development (ABCD)

CIVICS, SOCIAL TECHNOLOGY
Over the past fifty years, practitioners have developed radically different ways for groups to think and act together. World Café, Open Space, Circle, Appreciative Inquiry, Liberating Structures, and other “social technologies” replace arguing competing points of view with practices that help people listen to and learn from one another. Their premise is radical: change the way people come together, and you can change what they become capable of doing together.
FOLLOW THE THREAD
Alexander W. Galbraith photographed this barn raising in Lansing, then a rural community and now part of North York in Toronto, around 1900.
I am moved by what the photograph contains. There is no obvious expert at the center directing everyone else. Instead, scores of people with different roles and abilities have gathered to accomplish something none could readily do alone.
They aren’t discussing community, they are producing it. And the barn is almost beside the point. The tangible product of the gathering is a building. But another product is the experience people take home: we can do things together.
That is a lovely expression of a truth I want to find and celebrate again and again: Community is one of the places where people learn and relearn that cooperation works.


How adolescent experiences with parents and peers affect the next generation's development
Researchers at the University of Virginia have been studying the development and intergenerational transmission of empathy. Over 25 years, they tracked 184 adolescents from age 13 into their 30s. Their findings suggest that when parents demonstrate empathy toward their teenagers, it helps foster empathy in their children.

A model for living that could offer insights into fostering togetherness in larger society.
A co-living space in Los Angeles exemplifies a growing trend in the U.S.. To combat isolation people are forming diverse communities where residents share both living spaces and experiences.

Here are some starting points on how to orient and help fight the coup.
"There is a Jewish teaching that says that you are not responsible for completing the work, nor are you allowed to desist from it. We will succeed because millions of people do a couple things well, not because one person does a million things."
'There is a very important distinction between what they’re trying to do and what they’ll succeed in doing, between what they’ve launched a war against and the outcome of that war.'
The quote in the headline comes from Rebecca Solnit’s Hope in the Dark. She echoes the first lesson Timothy Snyder presents in On Tyranny: Twenty Lessons from the Twentieth Century: “Do not obey in advance.”

Americans are now spending more time alone than ever. It’s changing our personalities, our politics, and even our relationship to reality.
This article by Derek Thompson for The Atlantic highlights a sobering reality: Americans are spending more time alone now than at any other point for which reliable data exists, dating back to 1965.

In this world we do not understand, how do we know what to do?
The first edition of this book was dedicated to Pema Chödrön, the Buddhist teacher who emphasizes that peace and resilience are found by facing and embracing life exactly as it is.

This idea reminds me of the healing energy that is conjured in 12-step rooms.
John Bell is a Buddhist Dharma Teacher. After the November election he named these three interrelated currents that he hasn't heard discussed by the mainstream media:

Unhoused people want to be housed. They want to be seen. They want to be heard. This choir gives them the mic.
Voices of Our City amplifies the voices of people impacted by homelessness through music and the arts.

The day that Jimmy Carter changed Hunter S. Thompson's mind
In May 1974, Hunter S. Thompson was covering Senator Edward M. Kennedy as the senator gathered support for what many believed would be his upcoming presidential campaign.